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    • #111328
      Heidi
      Participant

        Hello siblings,

        I need to share what happened the last few days.

        First, thank God for Ritan and that I can come here and share stuff and talk to sisters and brothers.

        My manager has resigned. she is an an amazing manager. My colleagues are planning a potluck and want to get her a gift certificate. I was so busy the last few days that I did not read properly the posts from my colleagues regarding our plans. Then I noticed the amount we had to etransfer to get her a gift certificate. When you add up all the donations, it will be a $450 plus the food for the potluck. That is quiet a bit of money, I posted that this is too much money. Other colleagues said “we already agreed on this……….” Anyway, in the end I said I will transfer the amount but nobody should be suggesting such amounts to be donated for the gift. I did apologize at the end. they said it’s OK. I am doing the money transfer later tonight.

         

        My super at the building has asked me for money several times. He said he is struggling financially and does not have enough food to it. I gave him $20 a few times to help out and said you can pay it back later. A few days later he says: I still didn’t get my money, I can’t pay it back.

        then I tell him it’s Ok he can do this or that for me. I end up having him do stuff for me instead of paying me back.

        I arrived home today, there was a text message from him saying that he only needs $10 cause he does not have enough food. I called him and shouted away. ( too much stress at work, big donation for my manager, my super trying to make me feel sorry that he needs help…………) I told him I can’t keep giving him money and that he still owes me $50. I told him to never again ask me for money.

        he is coming in to bring a new stove so it will be awkard to see him. I also hope he doesn’t start harassing me or making my life uncomfortable in any way. I am shaking from being very tired and angry.

        thank you for reading this.

      • #111329
        Yohanan
        Moderator

          Sounds like you’ve had a tough week.

          Maybe instead of giving him money you could give him some food. At least you’ll know that the money spent actually went to food and not something else that you would not have given him money for.

          :prayer-hands: Lord, grant our sister your peace from her week of stress and wisdom to know how to handle the situations she faces.

        • #111331
          Terry
          Participant

            p1

          • #111332
            Heidi
            Participant

              Thank you, Yohanan and Terry.

            • #111333
              Melissa
              Participant

                That is a really awkward position that you have been put in at home and at work! Prayers for you 🙏🙏💕

              • #111335
                KolleenWStone
                Moderator

                  Heidi, these days are stressful for sure, and you’ve spoken of stress for a while now off and on. I hope you are loving yourself by finding meaningful time away to do things you enjoy, alone or with others. It’s important to find and have those quiet times, where you can be filled up by whatever is good, where the Lord can refresh your soul.

                  I pray discernment for you in every situation, to close the doors to wherever the enemy is sending stress-filled situations your way. Praying the Lord will give you His peace, and to know what is of Him, and what is not. It is ok to know your limits, and to know where you can involve yourself, and where you shouldn’t, before the Lord.

                • #111345
                  Paul R
                  Participant

                    The previous two verses plus the one Kolleen posted above are my go-to verses for stress. (Phil.4:6-7) “Be anxious for nothing…”

                    Also, Matthew 11:28-30. “Come unto Me all ye that labor and are heavy-laden…”

                    Also, John 14:27 “Peace I leave with you…”

                    And my favorite stress relieving verse, that literally saved me from more than a year of terrible insomnia — and gets me to sleep in no time (thank you Lord!): Isaiah 26:3 “You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on You; because he trusts in You”.

                    I believe it’s important to read these verses out loud from your Bible (or recite them) and do what the verse tells you to do. Think about the words. Stick with it — it sometimes takes a while for these powerful words to reach our inner beings because of distractions and worry in our minds. Stress can be so destructive — fight it with the Word! Trust Him — He wants to help us because He loves each one of us more than we can ever imagine!

                  • #111349
                    Terry
                    Participant

                      Thanks.  Also for sleeping, Psalm 4:8, In peace I will both lie down and sleep; for you alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety.

                      Oh dear.  In looking that up to copy it in I realized I’ve been saying Oh God instead of O LORD.  I hope He doesn’t mind.

                    • #111350
                      Heidi
                      Participant

                        Thank you Kolleen, Melissa, Paul, Terry.

                        I read the verses out loud and will continue to do so. I copied them on a word document.

                      • #111356
                        Heidi
                        Participant

                          Love you all my Ritan family :bible :rose:

                        • #111629
                          Heidi
                          Participant

                            Today was the last day my manager was at work. Feel like my safety blanket is gone. ( I know that’s a silly way of putting it)

                            She told me I can stay in touch and I can even ask her work related stuff if I needed, but to be careful not to mention her name and say she told me so because she is not the manager anymore.

                            She got a job at a big church. I am going to connect with her in 2 or 3 weeks and ask her if she wants to go out for lunch.

                            Whenever I mentioned to one of my colleagues that I want to leave my job, they tell me to think twice because you won’t easily find a manager like that. They were right so I stayed. Now that she has left, I can tell her that I need to leave that job too because of the stress level and maybe we can chat about it.

                             

                            • This reply was modified 1 week, 4 days ago by Heidi.
                          • #111632
                            KolleenWStone
                            Moderator

                              It is better to find a place of peace as much as possible, than work in a stress filled environment.  May the Lord lead you to the doors He can open for you to walk through. He knows your frame and He watches over you.

                              “I will instruct you (Heidi) and teach you in the way which you should go. I will guide you with My eye.” Ps 32

                              “And your ears shall hear a word behind you saying, this is the way, walk in it…” Is 30

                              “In You O Lord do I put my trust; let me never be put in to confusion…for God is not the author of confusion, but of peace” Ps 71 1 Cor 14

                            • #111643
                              Heidi
                              Participant

                                Please pray for me. I am having serious anxiety.

                              • #111644
                                Terry
                                Participant

                                  storm

                                • #111645
                                  Todd Tomlinson
                                  Participant

                                    Heidi for so many years I went through tremendous trials and tribulations and I stood firmly on the following verse and it alone is what got me through the storm:

                                    Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for us.   1 Peter 5:7

                                    And in the larger context of 1 Peter 5:8-9 – know that you’re not alone in these times of trouble and its nothing but the enemy who is scrambling as he knows his time is limited:

                                    8 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.
                                    9 Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings.

                                    I found myself on my knees so many times praying “Father God I know you won’t give me anything that you haven’t equipped me to handle and this challenge is something that is beyond my capability to cope with.   I lay <name the problem I was struggling with> at your feet Father and ask you to take the burden off my shoulders.  In Jesus might name I pray”       Every time I put 1 Peter 5:7 into play my storms cleared and I was able to move forward.   The storms that used to rage in my life are no longer present.   I get an occasional rain shower now and then but I pull out my arsenal of tools and lay down 1 Peter 5:7 as the first line of defense and those rain showers quickly pass.    I have also gone from a mindset of “why me Lord?” to one of “Ok Lord, show me what you want to learn from this” – and that too has changed my outlook.   What I’ve found over the past 20 years is that every storm / rain cloud that has come my way was a preparation to help so many others who are facing the same challenges.   Without going through the storm I may not have been as powerful to help those in need.   God is preparing you to help others my sister.

                                  • #111647
                                    Melissa
                                    Participant

                                      🙏🙏🙏He will meet you at the place of your need. Love in Christ💕💕

                                    • #111653
                                      Heidi
                                      Participant

                                        Thank you Kolleen, Terry, Todd and Melissa.

                                        Todd, thank you for the prayer. I was looking for prayers like that. I prayed it more than once.

                                        It was scary today. I had to call my doctor twice and a colleague who is a doctor. I was s little better, now I am not feeling well again. Will call the doctor again tomorrow.

                                        My doctor told me he had surgery with complications. He was away from work for over a months. (his absence also caused me anxiety cause he is available after hours for his patients and is a Cehristian)

                                         

                                         

                                      • #111668
                                        Todd Tomlinson
                                        Participant

                                          You are welcome Heidi — its a great tool that is there for us to take ahold of.

                                        • #111673
                                          Heidi
                                          Participant

                                            It is better to find a place of peace as much as possible, than work in a stress filled environment.  May the Lord lead you to the doors He can open for you to walk through. He knows your frame and He watches over you.

                                            “I will instruct you (Heidi) and teach you in the way which you should go. I will guide you with My eye.” Ps 32

                                            “And your ears shall hear a word behind you saying, this is the way, walk in it…” Is 30

                                            “In You O Lord do I put my trust; let me never be put in to confusion…for God is not the author of confusion, but of peace” Ps 71 1 Cor 14

                                            That’s true, Kolleen. A place of peace is so much better. How hard it is to find it in the big city. I have been wanting to move to a small city for the longest time, but I haven’t for many reasons. There are more opportunities here, more things to do. I was told it can get lonely in a small city. Here we have cinema’s, many restaurants and coffee shops, ………………

                                            Another good thing about my job is not just my manager but the other managers and all my colleagues. They are all good people and they are very supportive. it is HR and upper management that caused us a lot of problems with the mandates, but the other managers, supervisors,……………….most of them are very good people and compassionate.

                                            When things got so much worse in the world with so much evil around us, going to a place with so many good people in it, made me feel safe and that this world has not totally gone crazy yet.

                                            Many things I have to do are stressful and some clients are difficult. However, there are some nice and polite clients whom I like.

                                             

                                            • This reply was modified 1 week, 2 days ago by Heidi.
                                          • #111675
                                            Heidi
                                            Participant

                                              My doctor told me he had surgery with complications. He was away from work for over a months. (his absence also caused me anxiety cause he is available after hours for his patients and is a Cehristian)

                                              Goodness! what is the meaning of Cehristian?

                                              I meant Christian.

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